One thing that they do not tell you when you first become a parent is this:

You need to be compliant with all professionals in your child’s life!

Or else!

That’s right!

You better agree to and go along with whatever the pediatrician says.

You need to agree with the pediatric dentist and comply with whatever is recommended.

Even if you have doubts.

You are not allowed to question it!

Is your child in school?

You better, sure as hell, bow down to what the teacher advises!

Or else!

Or else what?

For one thing, you may be kicked out of a doctor’s or a dentist’s practice if you do not follow through.

You may be called in for a meeting with the teacher, principal and social worker to question your parenting.

Or worse yet…

Child Protective Services may end up showing up on your doorstep.

There is a real and true tyranny in the world of parenting and professionals.

Parents are pushed, pressured, and intimidated into doing what these professionals tell them to.

Frankly, it is called bullying.

And, as a parent, you need to be aware of it.

The Passive-Aggressive Professional Bully

Let’s talk about the passive-aggressive bullying style of many (not all) of these professionals.

They do not like to be questioned.

When you question a doctor, dentist, counselor, etc., you automatically give them a complex.

They zone in on you simply because you questioned their recommendation.

When you simply question them, they immediately see you as a problem.

Then, they often pressure you or intimidate you into agreeing and complying with their recommendation.

Just as a bully would.

Personal Example

For example…

(And this is merely my most recent example of many possible examples I could give you.)

I took my 6-year-old son, Ryan, to the dentist a few weeks ago.

After his cleaning and x-rays, the dentist informed me that he needed 7 crowns put on his baby teeth.

7.

Now, mind you, they call these caps, not crowns.

But, that is exactly what they are.

Crowns.

They go over the baby teeth as an adult crown would.

I questioned the dentist on this because, obviously, why wouldn’t I?

How could he need 7 crowns when I brush, floss and have him swish with fluoride every single day?

How could he need 7 crowns when the child eats a slew of fruits and vegetables and is rarely allowed a sweet snack?

Ooo!

The dentist did not like that I questioned his diagnosis and recommendation!

He informed me that if I did not follow through with the recommendation then I could no longer return to the office.

My kids would no longer be allowed to simply have their teeth cleaned there.

I went to three other pediatric dentists for second opinions, and they all wanted to do the same thing!

Put 7 crowns on 7 of my son’s baby teeth!

Hm.

Now what?

Do I comply?

If I don’t, where the hell am I going to go to get my kids’ teeth cleaned?!

All of the dentists had the same policy!

If I do not have my kids’ teeth cleaned anymore, then CPS comes along and dings me for child dental neglect.

So, my friends, what do I do?

What would you do?

The Underlying Societal Trend

Believe it or not, this type of tyranny is becoming the norm.

I am not the only parent who has experienced these dilemmas.

They do not happen just once in a while.

They tend to happen quite frequently.

And they tend to happen across the board with a variety of different pediatric professionals.

You can read more here.

Now, unless you are a very compliant parent who trusts every word that a professional tells them…

Well, then, you may not find an issue.

But let me tell you…

You are the child’s parent.

You know your child better than anyone!

If you do not agree or question what a professional tells you, then you may be right to do so.

The problem is that you will not be allowed to act on your right very easily.

Simply because of the intimidation and pressure that the professional may lock you into.

If you try to go against their recommendation, then you may experience the following:

You may be belittled.

Threatened.

Your own parenting skills questioned.

And even flat out informed that you are a shitty parent for not following along with recommendations.

I even had a doctor tell me that I was “putting a gun to my child’s head” if I didn’t follow through.

What?!

Talk about exaggeration!

How Should a Parent Behave Then?

This is the big question that you, and every parent out there, needs to learn how to answer.

I cannot tell you how to answer this.

Only you can make this decision for yourself and for your child.

Think about this.

Think about the different scenarios that you may come across this way.

One popular scenario is childhood vaccinations.

If you don’t agree to vaccinate your child, doctors will often kick your family out of their practice.

Will you comply?

Even if you do not fully agree with their vaccination schedule?

Or will you walk away and pray that you can find a pediatrician that will accept your family and values?

You see…

Only you can overcome these scenarios.

But I do want you to be aware.

Parents are not informed of these situations.

It is not until they are put in such a tight position and made to feel less than that they may realize what I am saying.

I don’t want it to be that way for you.

Put On Your Armour

Now that you know that these parenting troubles exist, here’s what you should do:

You need to think about your own family and personal and family values.

Prepare yourself ahead of time for the worst at every single professional visit.

This way, you’ll know best how to respond.

Taking your child to the dentist?

Just expect the dentist to tell you that your child has a cavity.

Get a plan as to how you’ll handle the situation.

Will you be a parent that every doctor loves…

And simply be compliant with whatever is recommended?

Or will you be the parent that every doctor cringes about…

And question them if you feel that they’re not right?

When you are more prepared for these scenarios, you can handle them better.

You wouldn’t walk into a battle without, first, putting on a suit of Armour!

Get your thoughts, feelings and stance together.

Prepare yourself.

Only when you can do this, can you be ready for these challenges.

 

Have you ever experienced a bullying situation from a professional?

If so, how did you handle it?

Feel free to share in the comments section below!